Well, good news! We have had our foster daughter since 2005 and we were just notified of her final adoption date! It will be in July, which is later than we were hoping for, but never-the-less it is finally a date! Things have settled down quite a bit in our family now. A. feels like one of my own children to me now and so much of the stress of those earlier years have greatly diminished. It has been a little over one year now since she has seen her biological mom, and she brings that to my attention fairly often. My heart does go out to her as I can see how much it hurts her to not be able to hug and talk with her mom.
We have been told that it is the law that between termination of parental rights and adoption there is to be NO contact between child and mother (or father). So, now she has set her sites on the day she will turn 18 and has informed us that she will be heading for her mom's place on that very day. I just swallow my hurt and my pride and try to tell her that I understand. I know she loves us and I am assuming that she will come back often to visit us. Those are going to be some tough times for me and my husband.
But hey, this post started out on a good note and I didn't mean to dwell on depressive thoughts. I love A. and we have a few more years till she turns 18. I need to focus on making sure A. is ready to go back to her mom emotionally, thinking with her head and not just with her heart. She is such a strong girl, I think she is going to be ok. Maybe the bigger question is - will we?
Keep Looking Up!
Diane
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